💮 2021 gratitude ---> 2022 mood board

Dear Rose,

Do MORE:

• get creative
• spend time with family and friends
• get active + improve moods - regular physical activity & social connections 
• eco-friendly living 
• a balanced diet
• maintain a regular sleep pattern
• stay hydrated - drink water, skincare
• stress management
• slow it down
• me time
• shopping list - plan your shopping
• saving plan
• more sun
• cook a meal every week
• declutter and room cleaning - higher concentration and increase work productivity
• improve overall musical skills and work performance
• improve language and communication skills
• celebrate the little things - practice daily gratitude
• 9pm foot soak - blood circulation, stress relief （盐水泡澡助眠抗衰，增强记忆力）
• yoga and stretching 

Do LESS:

• screen time
• junk food
• impulsive shopping - clothes, makeup products, skincare, food, bags, others
• sleep late
• procrastination
• eating out or takeaway
• talking too fast
• multitasking 
• bad posture
• skipping breakfast - body functions slow down to preserve the fuel

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Throwback - flood, Penang trip and everything about love. Thank you 2021.

People have been curious about the secret to our LDR.

To be honest, it has never been easy. Even until today, I think we are still trying. We learn, we grow, sometimes we change.

And we are lucky have supportive friends along the way, they play a big role in our relationship.

In 2020, the pandemic has hit us very hard and livings did not get any better in 2021 when many Malaysian homes were hit by one of the worst floods, including mine in Puchong.

That night when it rained, I was at a bridal shower party with my friends in Bangsar. My brother and mum were back in Seremban and my dad was left alone in the house. It was very unfortunate because among all our friends at the party, only my house was flooded. 

There was nothing I could do when the roads were flooded, cars could not go pass and some stuck in the middle of highways due to floodwater. 

I was even frightened when dad spammed us with photos but did not pick up the phone calls after that. 

I was over-worried. I guess my mum was panicked too.

I felt a sense of relief when my bf, Lance, answered my video call in the middle of the night while he was asleep. It was unusual that he stayed up late, got up from his bed, and calmed me down until I could fall asleep - I guess this is why my friends complained that I did not see the good in him. 

During that time, he was still in home quarantine after he arrived in Malaysia. 

Times like this make me wonder why is he such even-tempered person and managed to calm in difficult situations, because I am often quite the opposite - chaotic and emotional. And he brings order out of chaos.

When his books and music sheets were all damaged due to the flood, I was expecting he would get frustrated seeing his favorite stuffs got ruined, but he did not. 

(walaoeh?? how come?? hmmm ... is he pretending? lol)

I realize amidst the chaos, we slowly learn that the more important thing in our life is holding onto each other.

And I began to learn to trust my bf and our relationship more.

 

I practice being vulnerable and open when I am with him, as he cherishes my honesty when I learn to communicate about anything and everything, I feel safe. 

The things I want to do better in our relationship is to always listen to my partner's side of the story with more patience (which I had none), and assume my partner has good intentions even if he lets me down sometimes, he was not intentional. And I wish to do the things I rarely or never do - learn to apologize and tell him "Ily" more often, and learn to understand my partner's love language when he is willing to do the same for me. 

Perfectionist Virgo x Stubborn Taurus

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This year, Lance's beloved grandma passed away. 

It was hard to believe. 

These were the lanterns grandma made for every Chinese new year. I will always cherish the memory and let it live on. 

Photos taken at 老屋 in 2018.

珍惜眼前人，活在当下

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